Don’t Lean In too far…

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This is *not* what I look like at work. © elnariz /Adobe Stock

Sorry fellow colleagues, but I’m that girl. The girl who gets to work at 8:59am and leaves at 5:01pm. Yes, that girl. The girl who doesn’t start new work if it’s going to take her past the 5pm clock-off time. Yep! That’s me.

The truth is, and I’m embarrassed to admit it in this great age of ‘Lean In’, that I despise corporate life. There’s a lot to love about the jobs I’ve had but I’ve hated the parts of my jobs that were not directly my job. …

In all its live-action glory…

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Disney added colour to my childhood in so many ways. I listened to my cassette soundtrack of ‘Pocahontas’ so much it broke. I used to pine for October when the next Disney feature was scheduled to come out.

As an adult, I went back through the old classics and watched them again with the same joy and wonder I felt as a child. There’s no other brand whose products I’ve been as familiar with so consistently from childhood to adulthood.

Until recently, I used to still look forward to Disney’s new releases. To my despair, however…

Disney is now completely committed to rewriting and remaking all its past classics with the intention of addressing every bad faith critique of what are, at their crux, wholesome children’s movies. …

An event to mark the increasing loss of religious freedom as Christian groups fear the issue will be drowned-out by Brexit

Fionn Shiner, parliamentary spokesman for Aid to the Church in Need (ACN)

On the 27th November 2019, advocates for religious freedom took part in an event known as Red Wednesday all over the UK.

Organised by Catholic charity Aid to the Church in Need (ACN), this year’s Red Wednesday, an event to highlight the loss of religious freedom around the world, included a candlelit Cross procession, leaving Parliament Square.

Across the UK, 120 buildings were lit up with red light, including 13 cathedrals, the Mersey Gateway and the Sir Chris Hoy velodrome, Glasgow. …

Restaurant Review

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Given what I’d already heard about this place, I was surprised when I did finally visit to find Bar Douro so diminutive in size. Part of Southwark’s cuisine renaissance, Bar Douro is a smart little eatery tucked neatly under a railway arch near London Bridge station. Its décor suggests that it’s not trying too hard because it doesn’t have to. Bar Douro exudes an understated but undoubtedly affluent vibe.

Bar Douro is quiet and romantic, the type of place you take a loved one for an intimate date. I wouldn’t bring just anyone here. Not everyone will appreciate its deliberate cosiness and lack of ostentation. I wouldn’t bring my noisy extroverted friends here. This is a bar for special people. …

Book Launch — King’s Cross Station, London — 25th October 2019

On the 25th October, the book launch for Matt Adcock’s debut novel, Complete Darkness, was held at King’s Cross Station, London.

Interview with Matt Adcock, author of the bestselling novel Complete Darkness

Adcock’s novel, a fifteen-year labour of love, has already topped the Amazon Religious Science Fiction and Fantasy list. Complete Darkness is set in a world where mankind discovers that Hell is real. The novel’s protagonist must find a way to save humanity before the Devil gets to them first.

Complete Darkness book launch at King’s Cross Station

The Reverend Peter Laws, author of Purged, and satanist, Ben Dean, author of Uncover Satan Recover Thyself, were guest speakers at the event and offered their thoughts on what Heaven and Hell mean to them and how they think the Devil would manifest itself. …

The Jessica Yaniv “trans-waxing controversy” is a sorry, sorry state of affairs. I suspect there will be only losers when this bizarre case reaches its conclusion. But something important is also at stake here and that is the distinction between the public and private space.

Yaniv has been called a “bad faith troll” and I think that nickname is well-deserved. Having seemingly appeared to have undergone absolutely no treatment for gender dysphoria, Yaniv still expected to be welcomed with open-arms into women-only spaces. Unless one is of diminished capacity, no adult would consider that a reasonable request.

Whilst it is a social injustice that women (including transwomen) are excluded from public, intellectual and spiritual spaces, that is not a credible argument for desegregating private spaces that offer intimate services or services to vulnerable people. These spaces are different in substance, nature and the intent behind their segregation is not one of discrimination. …

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Take it from a woman who barely escaped from the Liberty Movement in one piece — young, political staff especially those who are motivated by something other than money are hugely vulnerable. When I took up a position in a DC-based organization I was unaware just to how vulnerable I actually was. …

If her next album doesn’t strike the right tone, TS7 could herald the decline of the best celebrity in the world

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When I say Taylor Swift is the best celebrity in the world that’s not a moral judgement. I don’t know if she’s a good person. I don’t know if she's the best musician in the world. I’m not qualified to make assessments of that kind — I must confess now, at the beginning of this op-ed, that I don’t even listen to her music for my own pleasure, only to satiate my own curiosity. …

Whilst keeping your mental health intact…

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Being a human on the Internet is not always easy. If you have a poet’s soul, as I do, then normal Internet interaction is challenging enough. If you endeavour to create, as I do, then it’s even harder. So easily and are cruel, unprovoked and unwarranted slurs thrown in every direction. After publishing my first novel, I received some interesting direct messages on social media and to my personal email account, but I’m ultimately a resilient soul.

In order to preserve what sanity I have left, I live by a few self-imposed conduct rules which help me keep social media enjoyable. …

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I’ve always wanted an internet pseudo-law named after me. If I am to eventually get one I hope it will be this:

The further a fictional female character is from the feminine mystique — the less likeable both male — and female — readers or viewers will find her.

This is what I want my Bechdel Test type-contribution to fiction to be.

So which side will you be on? Writers! Will you give your female characters actual flaws — not quirks, idiosyncrasies or mild vices. Actual, glaring flaws and irredeemable hubris. Will you sacrifice likeability for authenticity?

Or will you write yet another bland female character whose biggest flaw is benign clumsiness or being too neat? …

Sayde Scarlett

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